The idea of “love at first sight” has captivated many people, leading them to believe in the promise of an instant connection or relationship based on a first look. Although many people may like to think it is real, there are many people who disagree and say that love at first sight is not genuine and at first is just a simple attraction with one another.

The overall argument over love at first sight is whether or not this “love” is real. Some say it is and some say it’s not. I do not believe love at first sight is real. I think you can “love” the way someone looks but that is not love at first sight, I believe that is just a simple attraction or strong desire for someone.  It is really easy to mix up the two and get confused. I’ve read a couple of articles about this and one has a similar idea to what I believe. In the article, What Is Love at First Sight & Is It Real? It talks about the reasons you may think you are experiencing love at first sight and gives many good examples. The one I find most similar to what I think is, “Because infatuation can often feel stronger than actual love, it is common to mix up love and infatuation. This can make people think that they are in love when they are experiencing infatuation.” The exact definition of infatuation is “an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something” and the exact definition of love is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” It’s easy to think they’re the same.

As I said before, it’s easy to confuse the two and think you are in love with someone when they’re just attractive to you or you think they’d be a nice person to talk to. You can talk or look at someone and think you see someone you would like, possibly even love, and see a future with but half the time this is just a perception you have for that little while. According to the article, love-at-first-sight, this is a very common thing that happens. It is known that “If you feel that you have fallen in love at first sight, you have likely fallen for an idealized version of a person that you have created in your mind.” Eventually, after this fog clears up and you talk to this person and get to know them there are times you will find things you didn’t know before. You will realize you were never really in love, you were just attracted to them. You can love somebody for their personality but not for their looks. There is a difference between being in love and being attracted to someone.

Although I have my own opinion on this topic and do not believe in it, it’s always nice to hear from someone who does. I interviewed my friend Zoe and I asked her some questions about this topic to see what she thought about it. During our interview, I asked a series of questions including, “Do you believe in love at first sight?” among others. Zoe first explained that she did believe in love at first sight, so I proceeded with follow-up questions. I then asked her why and she said, “I’m very open-minded and open to it and if you truly believe you’re in love, there’s no judging in that because I myself have experienced it.” Zoe also added that you should always trust your intuition and that anything is possible. The last question I asked her was if she believes that relationships based on love at first sight can last and she stated, “Although it is rare, it’s not impossible or hard but there are times when you don’t know what to do and you’ll struggle but it gets easier over time as you both grow and mature together.” The last comment she had to say about love at first sight was, “If you think it’s real, that’s enough proof.” It’s always good to hear what someone else has to say even if you don’t agree. Thank you, Zoe, so much for your insight!  Love at first sight can be seen in many different ways by many different people.  Overall, it’s all about what you believe in at the end of the day. If you believe in it, go for it, if not, it’ll find you.