Something I wish I had learned earlier in life was to stop living for others and start living for myself. In life, we find people who we form strong bonds with; whether a relationship or a simple friendship at the end of the day it seems that’s ‘all we have’. Though, it may sound pessimistic, at the end of the day you only have yourself. We tend to lose ourselves in others. Begin to live for others. Changing everything about ourselves just so one person can like us or lose ourselves while looking for someone else. But why? 

From personal experience, there was a time when I went through a ‘friendship breakup’. This tends to affect a person, especially in adolescence, heavily. Now that I look back at it, I lost so much time for myself trying to fix someone else. 

You can probably think about a time you lost a friendship or a relationship, look at how far you’ve come. It’s in the past, and that is how most of life tends to work. Only to think, you had spent so much time worrying about how you could be better for them, in the process losing yourself.  This ties into what people think about you. Many of us feel the need to change to fit in. All people will do is talk, it gives you the need to change. One thing to know is that all people are going to do is talk about you, good or bad but at the end of the day it simply doesn’t matter. Stop caring about what others think, it’s easier said than done but it truly is possible.

Life’s too short to lose yourself for someone else, to change yourself for people who will simply talk to you because they aren’t happy with themselves. Stop feeling the need to fit in. Stop feeling sorry for losing someone else in your life. Stop feeling like you need to change for another person. In the end, we only have ourselves and there is nothing much we can do about that but live life to the fullest. You only live once and life is short.  If you take one thing from this article it should be to stop living for others and start living for yourself.